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4/19/2015 Decided to update this again~
Been a while, huh?  I don't come onto this account anymore, but occasionally I come on to read comments.  I said it before, but thank you for all of your stories.  All but one of the comments have been inspiring stories and constructive opinions.  Again, I don't come here often, but this is a topic I am always open to talking about, as long as we're both willing to listen to each other :)
I'm a teacher now, and trust me - I see a lot and am apart of many people's lives.  I know many stories, I know many situations, I know it isn't black and white.  Oh good Lord, do I know there are grey areas.  My jobs requires me to separate myself from my opinions.  When I walk into the classroom my opinions don't matter - what matters is that my students are safe and that I will do anything for them.  It's a surreal feeling - being so protective of so many, even though I may severely disagree with their decisions or stances.

A lot has changed, but I'll always keep my original description up.  I feel like that no matter how much I change and grow that it's important to remember where I've been, no matter how dark (and hypercritical) it was.  This stamp means a bunch of things to different people, so please don't see it as one opinion.  Read the comments; send me a note on my main account; inspire real-life conversations.  But don't assume.  That's what I did a lot of when I was younger.  At the same time though not everything has changed.  There will always be truth in what I wrote years ago, but people aren't stagnant.  We grow and evolve, and I hope these comments do that for you in some way~

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11/9/2012: I'd like to note that I plan on changing/adding to this description. Talking to the people who have left comments has given me, and others, insight, and I want to express my feelings behind this stamp better. When this was originally written, I myself was in a terrible part of my life (and in many ways, I still am). I am and always will be open to talking about the nature of this stamp, and I thank everyone for being mature about our conversations thus far :thanks: Thank you all for the support and sharing your stories with regards to this stamp - it's been a real experience, and I always hope for the best who are still seeking for answers :heart:

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i could say so much about this stamp, but i'll keep it to a minimum just cuz i don't to be here all night...
first off, this was inspired by In-The-Machine's stamp, as seen here: in-the-machine.deviantart.com/…

now, my thoughts and what this stamp means:

in plain, simple words i am sick and tired of people acting like they don't have anyone in the world who cares for them and thinking that there is no way out. that alcohol, drugs, cutting, and isolation are the only ways to feel better. that they know what they need to become "better" and don't need anyone to help. its total bullshit.
i myself have a father who i think needs psychological help with getting over whatever problems he had in the past with his family. does he ever listen to me when i try to talk to him about it or try stay calm when i ever have serious conversations about him with him? no, he doesn't. hence i'm tired of trying to help him because he doesn't want it. you can't help people who don't want to change, which is why i am so sick of listening to stupid little attention whore bitch about how horrible their lives are and how no one loves them. if they seriously gave a shit, they'd get help. true, some people have absolutely no one to turn to, but i'm talking about those people who think that no counselor can help them; that their parent's hate them; that none of their friends "know what they're going through." no - their friend's DON'T know what they're going through because they refuse to let anyone in. THAT'S why they have no one to turn to. until they realize that the world isn't out to ruin their lives, they will never get better, they will never be happy, and they will continue to be considered a failure.

on another note, no - i do not believe in pitying people who don't deserve it. pity only lets the person know that what they are doing (isolation through despair or anger, acts of anger, self-harm, drugs, alcohol) is ok since it gets them the attention that they feel they never got, so they continue to do these things. and yes, i do consider "simply" being in a constant bad mood to be as equally bad and influential as abusing alcohol/drugs because they all hurt others, they hurt the person doing it, and they will never help the person doing it regardless of how much it makes them feel "good". that "good" feeling is a cover-up and a method of sheer avoidence to the want to actually try to change and get better. and if we try to measure how important or severe someone's problem is, then no one would ever want to get help because they're not as important as others and don't deserve the attention. and yes, things like cutting are just as bad as alcohol/drug abuse in my eyes.

keep in mind that this is NOT everything that i think or believe. so before you get mad at me for not taking this or that into consideration, just shut up and stop yourself from being an idiot. express your opinion, yes, but do so in an intelligent manner.
i will open comments for a little bit, but as soon as i get a single idiotic comment they will close. this stamp is for those who feel the same as me.
and lastly, don't try to defend youself if you are someone who inflicts self-harm/drinks excessively/does drugs. i don't care to hear your story, and you should be busy telling your story to someone who can actually HELP YOU. not to some college student who just felt like expressing her own opinion.
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OllieKyusu Featured By Owner Jul 7, 2015
I love this stamp, I should show it to people who go around self-diagnosing themselves then talking about it non-stop to get sympathy for something they may or may not even have 

I've cut and hurt myself in many other ways, I had once convinced myself that no one would miss me and i'd be better off dead.
But I then realised, that even if no one would miss me (which isn't true at all) I need to improve on myself to make sure that there are people out there that will like me for me. I ended up pushing everyone away, and that was making things worse, I was the one adding fuel to the fire, no one else, not matter how much I blamed them. I went to the doctors and asked for help, I didn't know if it'd work, but I just wanted to TRY it because if it's an option to help you, you should grab it and do something with it.
I'm still a long way to go, but just by going to the doctors, I felt lighter, and so much happier in myself. 
Sure, the dark thoughts are still there, they may never leave, but I can ease them with baby step.
For once I actually felt proud of myself and not worthless at all.
Maybe one day, I won't have to take medicine, will be able to do things without overthinking, and most importantly, not be afraid :)
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Foxy-Sketches Featured By Owner Oct 1, 2015  Professional Traditional Artist
Sorry for the late reply, but thank you so much for sharing~
Baby steps are such a key point and something I think a lot of people forget.  When I started my depression and anxiety medications, I had some friends and family that asked me two days after starting the pills if I felt better.  I had to explain to them that the pills don't make me feel better - they just make me able to cope.  The rest of the battle was my own.  It's always worth to try things though because we never know what will help until we try :) I think that's the main opinion behind this stamp: you have to try. :heart:

You should feel very proud of yourself, and I am proud of you too.  I hope for nothing but the best for you~
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OllieKyusu Featured By Owner Oct 7, 2015
Baby steps can be very frustrating to a lot of people, I found that when I had it bad, I tried to get things all sorted and done all at once as quick as possible.
My family don't know I'm taking meds, but my friends are quite understanding (for those that haven't really experienced depression) and for that I'm grateful. 
It's also good to educate people on these things, especially if they don't understand properly, and just jump to all these conclusions 
Like as you said, a lot of people believe that meds make you feel better, when It's actually the support that helps. (for me anyway)

Aww thanks for your kind words :floating:
I hope the best for you too :hug:
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llcvj Featured By Owner May 16, 2015  Student General Artist
This helps me a lot, thank you for the insight
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Foxy-Sketches Featured By Owner Jun 20, 2015  Professional Traditional Artist
Thank you, and you're welcome :aww: It's an ever-changing idea, so I'm happy that it speaks to people in different ways.
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Foxy-Sketches Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2015  Professional Traditional Artist
Please don't feed the trolls, dears~
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Foxy-Sketches Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2015  Professional Traditional Artist
Oh wait, you're a troll.  Nevermind - sorry I responded.
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Foxy-Sketches Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2015  Professional Traditional Artist
"Sometimes you can't help yourself."
"...before assuming people like this exist."
I'm one of those people.  I got help.  We exist, and if you read the comments you'd know that.  There are amazing stories in the comments, as well as ones of those who still need help.
As stated in the description, I'm open to hearing people's opinions and talking about.  But calling me a prick isn't helping anyone.
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creativeserialkiller Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
I knew a girl that was depressed, self-harmed, etc.  She was bad at drawing, and was overall a self-centered and mean person.  Instead of working in some way to help herself, she just complained about everything.  About being depressed.  About being a bad artist.  About how I wouldn't let her self-harm.  About what an awful person she was-- but then she turned around and treated me like shit because I work to get better, stopped self-harming and I'm a kind and empathetic person and a good artist.  She acted jealous of me, even because my scars were deeper than her scars. .-.  I spend months of my life trying to help her, and all I got was a headache and a trip to a mental hospital.
This isn't the first time I've done this, either.  You can only help people if they want help, and I've finally learned that.
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Foxy-Sketches Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2015  Professional Traditional Artist
I had someone like that in high school.  He ruined many aspects of my life, including my first relationship.  He treated others terribly, which was so difficult because there were those who wanted to help him.  But yeah - there just wasn't anything we could think to do :( As much as I disliked him, I hope he's in a better place.
That's why it's always important to help when we can, because a lot of times it feels like we can't.  Nothing is worse than the times where I wanted to help my friends but couldn't discover how to do it, and the opposite where my friends couldn't help me.
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PsychoTeensie Featured By Owner Oct 22, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
This speaks to me quite a bit.. I was never a cutter, and I have never taken drugs or alcohol.. but there have been dark days where I have been tempted.. I've steeled myself from such thoughts. Being alone sucks, I should know.. and depression is a constant and persistent beast that torments my every waking moment. I may not have any blood relatives (LONG story), but at least I have my friends and boyfriend for support as I try to fix what little of my life and self-worth survived from the past. So much is chaining me down, but I want to break those chains and manage to live a normal life for a change. Any advice for a person who is broke and crippled?
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Foxy-Sketches Featured By Owner Oct 25, 2014  Professional Traditional Artist
I've definitely had the thought of suicide, but like you I never entertained it.  It doesn't mean those thoughts don't happen though :( 
Everyone's situations is different, but from what I have experienced and what I tell my students I can say that (most of the time) it helps to get help.  Talking to my psychologist and psychiatrist has helped me immensely, because I also live alone and depression can be crippling.  They actually both helped me get off of the medication for depression and anxiety (I was on so many pills) and helped me get my life back on track.  I am definitely an advocate for medication - it's not a fix-all, but it helps the physical side of depression.
Like I said - everyone is different, but I hope that what I've said helps you in any way :)
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7sins7virtues Featured By Owner Mar 22, 2014
I love this stamp. ouo And I agree with a lot of your aspects, speaking as another being with Depression and Anxiety. Sure, I have my bad days, where everyone better run from me, before I chew off their head. |D  But I'm trying to make a effort to help myself, since no professional's have been much help, other than a paid wailing wall I can bitch at. xD And I've actually done pretty well for my own standards. :dummy: I used to be deathly scared of being in public places. Now I can roam them again. Sure I crumple sometimes, but thats apart of being myself. :dummy: Gettin better though! I crumple a little less, every time, and lasting a little longer! And found my way to start my work on coping methods for myself, with the help of others. Mostly either my family, or animals who react to me, when I'm flipping out. :dummy:

Then again I'm probably a hypocrite, since I'm guilty of bitching and whining like I have no one and that my life sucks. |D I try to avoid it, but some times it just shits out before I think. |D *bricked*
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Foxy-Sketches Featured By Owner Apr 10, 2014  Professional Traditional Artist
lol, glad you like it! :D And thanks for sharing your thoughts.  Depression is such an awful beast, and there's definitely days where you just can't beat it.  But what matters is that you, and I, are getting better.  We can't let those few days where we fall off the wagon define our fight overall :D :heart:
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inside-our-mind Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
You inspired me to make a similar stamp. I hope you don't mind.
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Foxy-Sketches Featured By Owner Dec 18, 2013  Professional Traditional Artist
Not at all - I'm glad it inspire you :)
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NeneKanerva Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I would get help. But I am a coward.
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Foxy-Sketches Featured By Owner Nov 25, 2013  Professional Traditional Artist
That makes me sad to hear :( I know getting help is scary - I just started both anti-anxiety medicine and antidepressants, and to be put on medication, see a psychologist and a psychiatrist was all very overwhelming and frightening.  But I can definitely say that I am happy I finally took that chance :nod: I hope someday you'll find our courage to create the life you deserve :heart:
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mydragonzeatyou Featured By Owner Oct 29, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I got help, professional help.
It isn't helping. 
I don't know what to do. 
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Foxy-Sketches Featured By Owner Nov 5, 2013  Professional Traditional Artist
:( I'm very sorry to hear that.  It is difficult trying to understand what kind of help you need personally - whether it comes from others or inside you.  I wish I had answers, but I wish the best for you.  It's not an easy road (I'm currently enrolled in multiple programs for depression) but I hope you find what you need.
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mydragonzeatyou Featured By Owner Nov 5, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Well I'm going back to the hospital so hopefully that will help. 
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MusicIsAnAddiction Featured By Owner Aug 22, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
In my experience, most try to get help all the time and others ignore/push them away. My friends did that to me. I asked them to help me get help, to support me, and they all ignored me. That made me not want to get help, and give up. Of course, 3 years later I got help and I'm a recovered self-harmer. But I owe that victory to myself and myself only. It's difficult to bring yourself to ask for help when no one answers you. And it's no one's fault. 
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Foxy-Sketches Featured By Owner Aug 25, 2013  Professional Traditional Artist
Indeed - I have family members that ignore me as well.  I've even had a few go as far as to call me wrong and hurt me further.  Nothing is ever easy.  I'm not placing blame anywhere, and hearing stories like yours are what this stamp is about, and it makes me very happy.  Thank you for sharing your story - I'm glad you were able to identify how to get the help you wanted and that you were successful :heart:
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TheElegirl Featured By Owner Jul 22, 2013
It is extremely hard getting help. But, when people do, they are incredibly brave, and can sometimes save a life, their own or others. 3 months ago, for a very long time, I was suicidal. But, I sought help. I got my mother and father to help me, and I am no longer suicidal. I hope this can be a inspiration to others.
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Foxy-Sketches Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2013  Professional Traditional Artist
I definitely find you as an inspiration, even I haven't been through exactly what you've gone through :aww: I'm always happy to hear stories like this, so thank you very much for sharing :heart:
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TheElegirl Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2013
Thank you :) And your welcome :)
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Cammi0 Featured By Owner Apr 2, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Do people like you ever consider that it is hard getting help? Cutting is like an addiction, and if you get help you will be forced to stop. I disagree with your statement, but I am not going to harass you or anything. Just saying, getting help isn't all that easy.
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Foxy-Sketches Featured By Owner Apr 5, 2013  Professional Traditional Artist
I know - many others have mentioned this, and I've had great conversations with them here in the comments section :) Like I stated, the original description was written in the heat of the moment, and this is by far not everything I believe nor feel anymore. I know it's hard to always get help - I've experienced it myself. I appreciate your way of stating your opinion - I really need to update the description, but I rather just let the comment section speak for itself :thanks:
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Cammi0 Featured By Owner Apr 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yep. Sometimes I love reading fights on here....does that make me a bad person? At least I don't start them, right?
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Foxy-Sketches Featured By Owner Apr 5, 2013  Professional Traditional Artist
Oh, there's no fights in this comment section :) Everyone has been very nice and stating their opinion nicely so we can have meaningful conversations ^^

lol, I totally get you though - I've definitely gone on comment journeys here on DA and on YouTube many times :XD:
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Cammi0 Featured By Owner Apr 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
yep! Hhahha
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empe13 Featured By Owner Jan 13, 2013
Maybe I don't agree with you completely, but I like that you expressed your opinion in rather, well, direct manner, but still like an intelligent, cultured person. I saw many opinions here on deviantart that people you're talking about are a waste of space and such, and that won't help anybody. Your text can. (also sorry if there are any mistakes)
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Foxy-Sketches Featured By Owner Feb 7, 2013  Professional Traditional Artist
:thanks: Thank you, I appreciate it greatly :)
I've definitely learned a lot more from talking to people here on DA, so I hope to update my description when I have the time. But I am still glad that you find it helpful in any way. :heart:
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maur1n Featured By Owner Jan 12, 2013
Nice to know that I could find more intellectual people around here. I agree with you. A more painful struggle happens when you have to keep things hidden. It's when you wanna burst out crying at night but have to control yourself because you can't h e swollen eyes in the morning. The world will question you for something you can never explain
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Foxy-Sketches Featured By Owner Feb 7, 2013  Professional Traditional Artist
Thank you :thanks:
That's very flattering of you to say, but I wouldn't say it's a complete matter of intelligence though. It's such a difficult thing to deal with, and I know there are people who are out there who understand that keeping things in only makes things worse. But sometimes we don't really have a choice (I speak from personal experience). Again, thank you though, and I'm glad you agree :heart:
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isthmi Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012
Nail. On. The. Head! Change comes from inside you, and if you can't find it in yourself, then no counselling or cries for attention are going to fix anything.
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Foxy-Sketches Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012  Professional Traditional Artist
thank you for your support on this stamp :thanks: and i agree: counseling DID help me in the past, making me understand things and help start towards healing. but the only reason it worked is because i internally understood that i needed to take into consideration the opinions of others (while at the same time not compromising my own opinions too much) :D
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blacklitlife Featured By Owner Aug 19, 2012
nicely said. i appreciate the truth in this and agree that using cutting, drinking and other extremes as a cry for attention is wrong. but many people cant go to psychologists and cant get the help they need, and the "help" that people try to give them isnt always what they need. for some people help doesn't always help
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